As the title of this post sounds, my site has been chosen as the winner of a lucky draw contest held by Gobala Krishnan of EasyWordpress.com. Gobala held this contest to celebrate the recent festive seasons, which you can notice through the Christmas and Holiday Season Wordpress theme that I use. He built it so that people around the world could feel the joy of Christmas. It puts you in the holiday mode every time you look at it.
Have you ever tried something, doesn’t matter what is it, it could be as simple as lifting up a chair or changing your mind towards something or to building a business and failed?
Have you been into those frustration moments?
Pretty hard to endure, isn’t it? When you have tried all your efforts that you can find inside you and it doesn’t seem to work.
One of the biggest problem that we as humans face is the word ‘try’ or ‘trying.’ Do you realize that trying is not enough or perhaps bluntly speaking, it does not exist. Trying is not a state of doing! It just never exists.
Perhaps you can imagine this situation, try to pick up the chair that you are sitting now (assuming that you aren’t standing). Try to pick it up.
If you have already picked it up and holding it in your hand, then you have failed what I’ve asked you to do!
I said try and not picking it up. What you need to do is just try to do it and not doing it. By doing it, which in this case picking up the chair, you have performed what I’ve not told you to do. Since I wasn’t telling you to pick it up, all you need is just try and this means you need not do anything other than try. Just lay your hands on the chair and pretending that you want to pick it up is more than enough.
Confused?
Let me make clear this up. When performing a task, there is just two decision that you need to make, two situation; first, of course to do it and second, not to do it. If you decide to do it, then the outcome is either you succeed or fail, not more than that. In case if you decide not to do it, then there’s no outcome. Nothing moves, nothing changes.
Well, technically this has nothing to do with self improvement. This is just one of the contest that is being held by gobala of easywordpress.com and as brutal as the title sounds, I wish to win an alarm that can kill.Â
For the past few months, I’ve heard of alarm clock that can fly, alarm which can run around like mad cow or even alarm that you need to feed him coin to make it stop screaming. And now comes the alarm clock that could lay a boom on you. It will definitely scare you to death which you might thought that you are in a warzone, especially if you are having a ‘war dream.’
I hope to get this one for my brother, as it darned hard to get him out of the bed and many alarms have died in his hand and I believe sonic boom has no mercy to him.
Yet, I could use this sonic alarm to program myself to wake up early during the weekends. Everyone is programmable and now it sounds self improvement!
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For years I have believed that human are born the way they meant to be, meaning; the way of your life is determined before your arrival here. Or in a deeper meaning, especially if you are a follower of the Buddha’s teaching, there is an underlying effect which makes you what and who you are. It is not a question whether you believe it or not or whether you like it or not, it just won’t make any differences. The ‘who’ you are is determined by the law of karma which then affects the Wheel of Samsara. What shapes you is set in your earlier life, through your previous life’s deeds and thoughts and which also mean that the current condition that you are facing is just the ripple effects from the unseen cause that you might have created. This also means that the invisible cause which makes you up is not possible to alter in its purest form. Who and what you are is just it is, you have no rights to intervene it.
You may think that the message that I am trying to bring is absurd, especially when it touches the teaching of a certain religion. What am I ‘fooling’ around here is not trying to convey the message of this teaching but rather trying to alter your thinking if you have been into this. For example, there are non-religious people, whether in the west or east, who thought that their lives are shaped up by fate, whether they like it or not. So they make no effort in order to change their fate as fate is not alterable. It is just as it is, when it begins here, when the seed of life is laid.
As for what I’ve been murmuring here, this has nothing to do with any religious issues, it’s just the way that I think best to describe life and the journey of fate and destiny.
Isn’t it the way human accepts fate is as same as the way they accept the law of karma, which has been highlighted by the Buddha and Krishna, even though they do not believe in it consciously?
Or to make it more sensible which I’m not claiming this to be true, particular for those of you who believe in the teaching of Buddha, law of karma = accepting fate.
The law of karma is just part of the story. What makes the difference is that for centuries, humans has been asking one great question, “Who am I?” Great philosophers such as Socrates and the Buddha, yes again this great teacher had asked it. And the way that these great philosophers answered it, laid the foundation and the path of their lives, which then made them who they really are.
So again the question, what shapes humans life? Was it Read more »
Have you been in a situation where you are lost? The lost here does not refer to physically lost, is more towards to mental lost.
The child has just spoil some milk onto your project paper which you need to summit it to your boss the next very morning. In the speed of a thunderstorm, anger took over you and you turned into a fierce less monster. Heading towards the child direction, you slapped him at his face, releasing the hatred energy that you have accumulated in that short amount of time.
So where was you at that moment? Did you lost during the time where anger emerged out of nowhere?
Did you actually realize that you were slamming the door, kicking the cat or perhaps slapping the child?
Did you aware of your action and the effects that might occur?
Most people don’t, else those silly things wouldn’t have had happened first. If you are the kind of people, then you are lost in those mere moment. You do not consciously know what you are doing when emotion changes took place. You become not the real you. You aren’t aware of yourself, you are lost in the process of indulging into your emotions.
However, lost doesn’t mean lost forever. When the emotion reaches it’s peak, it will either come down or just simply go away, diminishes in the thin air. The time it goes away is the time that you regain your sanity. You become aware again of yourself and by sitting quietly at a corner of your room, you begin to figure out what has happened, what have you done towards things that surround you at that time. You even realize that at that peak moment, you have lost control over yourself, hence creating the inferno-like situation.
Be The Third Watcher
The main problem of emotion burst out is we do not realize that we are in the situation. We are not aware of it especially when we are directly involved in those tight situations. However, we could always remind ourselves that we should watch over ourselves from the third person view. Be the third watcher.
It is your responsibility to watch over yourself, even mentally. Make yourself to watch over you as like watching a movie where you can see the whole thing vividly. By doing this, you will gain control of yourself as there is always part of you which is looking after you. It reminds you if you are doing something wrong, something which is not favorable. You have the rights to control your mental mechanism and you are the one who determines what type of hormone get released in the process of doing such emotion.Â
If you practice this long enough, you will raise your awareness towards yourself. You’ll be conscious over your every act and you definitely will not do something which will hurt others and yourself.
I’ve been planning a project which I like to work with for almost four months now. Rather than executing it, I’ve yet to choose the main theme for the project that I’m working on, as I have come up with several choices excluding another few from a buddy of mine. A lot of opinions involved in the process of deciding the right choice. I’m equal to all of them, none of them could give me extra emotional guide. They are just they are, they do not help in my decision.
Analyzing them even made me confused, none of them could even land a foot on me, it’s just hard to decide. None of them stands out! And over-analyzing really paralyzes me!
The approach which I used, see things from an outsider’s point of view. An opinion from someone outside who does not have a stake in the decision, it’s just the point of view without taking into consideration of the wholeness.
My headache got started when thinking of this and the best thing that I could do was to put if off until someday which was the only way that could comfort me (even putting off is still a decision, isn’t it?). But in real life “someday never comesâ€, you gotta decide what you want NOW.
Steve Pavlina, the person who preaches personal development doctrine for smart people has come out with a simple but great tool that enable every decision to be made as fast as under 60 seconds. Decisions are just the action for self-expression. You only decide when you are clear of what you want and from there, your real self get revealed.
Steve says, have you ever asked this question to yourself, “Is this for me?†or “Is
It’s just as simple as using the above question. It connects you into the real you, the one that you might have always missed. The real of you always knows what you really want. It has all the information that you need and it can even for-see the future so that the decision that you make will not bring you into trouble or uneasiness.
So ask yourself what you really want and decide from there casue What you ask, you will get an answer, particular when involving you. Some people call it the conscious state, the state where you are aware of everything from more than a third person eye (the universe eye). Others call it the subconscious which is working behind the scene and tries to bring the best result for you.
Read Stev’s real life experience here, he did it when shopping for a desk - yes, it’s simple as that.
Patric Chan, a successful local (Malaysia) Internet marketer shares a great real life story that taught us not to quit pursuing whatever that we have in mind. Just do not pull off from whatever that you are pursuing; it can be your passion, your job, your business, your great relationship, your valuable friendship, the brotherhood or sisterhood that you have built or your ultimate dream.
Patric provides us a great advice which he says that we all shouldn’t stop from doing the thing that we like, the thing that we meant to do, as once we stopped, it ain’t going to start anymore. The momentum which has been built earlier on will be gone forever and never ever going to be found again.
The mind losses its faith that once before powered up the soul. It will become tired and will never ever attempt anything again. It has learnt that failure is awaiting ahead.
Hop to the site for complete reading. So where did it go? (It’s my intention to let you know about this great real life experience, perhaps it has served as a reminder to me too)
Thanks.
